5 million Norwegians, and thousands more over the world are grieving because of the hatred of one man.
When my family & I first moved to Phoenix, Arizona in the late 90's, we were shocked and appalled at the level of gun violence that (still) happens on a daily basis there. It affected us in many ways, but we always felt that as Canadians, we could distance ourselves from it, say, "it's the wild west" or associate the violence and destruction with an American 'other'. Years later, we moved back to Montreal, my parents feared that my sister and I had been too exposed to the violence. In middle & high school I had been targeted, along with a few other classmates by a student's delusional threat to harm us at school. That student was expelled, and a few months later he stabbed another 16 year old kid to death over a small quarrel. We were taught how to act during a school lock-down. We watched Columbine happen live from our classroom on TV.
So when we moved back to Montreal, we always thought, "that kind of thing never happens here." But it did. A disturbed coward walked into my sister's college (where my grandfather had taught, where my mom, grandmother and I had all gone) and shot eighteen year old Anastasia de Souza, and injured many more. My sister literally ran for her life. There are no words to explain what I feel I should write here. She is the strongest woman I know. I don't want to write that she is a victim, because she isn't. She's a survivor. People say that she'll live with it the rest of her life. And while it might be true, I don't want her to believe them. I want her to feel that at one point, she has suffered enough and will step out of her old armour and lead a new life. And she will. (Like a phoenix.)
Adam & I have learned a lot about Norway, and come to understand why everyone is so surprised that such a violent act happened on July 22, 2011. Scandinavians are known for being open, progressive, peaceful. Adam even said that his Norwegian history class at school was so boring because they stayed neutral during most wars and didn't have much happen. Security is almost a non-issue in the country, as Adam & I experienced every time we went in and out of the airport: we never got a passport stamp, a customs interrogation or even a bag check coming back into Norway. We only ever saw a handful of police authorities, and they don't carry guns. The subway works on the honour system. The Norwegians we encountered were reserved, kept to themselves and generally didn't bother each other. They hold the god-darn Nobel Peace Prize ceremonies there for crying out loud!
I don't think we can rely on the belief that there are places in the world where violence is not an issue.
I hope that those affected (to every degree) get the counselling and care that they need, but what does give me comfort is that the Norwegians know how to take care of their own people.